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Pool leap – missing my family and Tiny dancer

There’s something to be said about your child outgrowing you – I just don’t have the words.

But I’ll try.

I’m ‘house sitting’ right now and the first night had my son saying, “It’s too quiet”

Missing my presence.

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Yeah.  😦 He’s starting to ‘adult’ and it was only one day until he was used to the ‘quiet’.

I miss him so much right now and miss Butters and miss home.

I feel as if I’m amongst ghosts.  Not the dead – but what used to happen in this home.

Breakfast, for both family and pets.

Upkeep of the two tiered home – and the outside garden.

My mum is the epitome of a ‘stay at home mum’ with no equal.  She keeps things going.  Not just the home, not just the animals, but the outdoors and all her amazing ideas.   And I’m sitting here, writing,  seeing much of her work dead.

I thought her garden was on auto water  timing.

THAT killed me when I finally saw her garden in daylight.

I want to soak everything “BRING IT BACK!!!!” Of course, that isn’t possible.

What have I learned.

Well … Other than the fact that I carry my sons heart …

Feral cat #1 has the most beautiful eyes.  DEEP green around the pupil and a lighter shade of green around that.

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The photo doesn’t capture that – but, I’ve paid enough attention.

I paid THAT much attention.   I see beauty in what is around me.

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My ‘bed’ lol. I can’t sleep in any bed here – I grabbed a quilt from the guest room – but the residents took it up.

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Photo of the ONLY time Plucky wasn’t on my chest or in my nostrils.  Not a cage – she was sitting under a stool.

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Meesh. AKA: Sissy.  And I know mum misses her and I know it’s reciprocated.   THAT reunion, I’d love to be a fly on the wall for.

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And – Tiny.  Tiny Dancer

I had a moment with her

Also tonight, I spoke to my ex-fiancée and lept into a VERY cold pool. Then took the most amazing shower, ^_^ ?

So I’m clean, adventurous, feeling handy here … And minty fresh lol.

No, I’m not always negative – I just purge (Pretty sure that keeps me positive)

Completely smitten with all you kittens that read my blog this weekend.  Thank you.

But, I don’t want you thinking I’m always dark.

I’m the girl who will crack up out of nowhere remembering something funny.

I’m the girl who comes home and is SO grateful for everything I have, as modest as it is, and also grateful for everything I don’t have.

I was gob smacked when I arrived home tonight to a package by the gate.

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It was from a dear friend who somehow still likes me.

I have been selfish. I have.

Or – I have not had the funds/energy/right mind to reciprocate.

And yet, my friends still love me.

I seriously don’t know why.

I sit worrying about EVERYTHING.  Health care, a lasting job, ‘enough’, the ‘unforeseeable’, life in general.  And I’ll tell you, everything I’ve worried about so far, HAS come true.  Am I projecting?  Or am I just sensible?

Butters’ injury – saw that coming.

And now my teeth hurt – saw that coming.

Lacking in funds for emergencies – KNEW that was coming lol.

And yet, every morning, I wake and am SO glad that I did.

Because I know there are thousands, no, millions of people who would give anything to have MY problems.

I love my life.

I ADORE my life.

I try to stay in the moment – then get caught up in ‘what if’s’

Ridiculous no?

But sensible – yes.

So, I’m a sensible pessimist. LOL!

I know what cards life has already dealt me and when things were tough, I DID fight through.  To the point that my son told me “I don’t worry about you, because you survive.”

I wish he knew how much that took – and at what price.

But – that gift today.  Oh my.  Someone still thinking of  me and loving me?  I needed that.

And I love you ‘elf Ann’

 

Guilty wishes – dark thoughts.

It’s still too early to sleep – but that’s what I want.

How do I feel?  I feel dank.

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Dank and dark and hopeless – and hopeful and grateful all at the same time.

Does that make sense?  No.

I feel like I have been peeled alive and felt every bit of it, but am still grateful for being alive.

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I am missing my mum.

I am hating what is the ‘waiting game’.  Knowing everyone gets what the outcome is.

Horrific isn’t it?  That I’m waiting day by day (as is she, but MUCH more personally) for the ‘finale’

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I won’t put a full stop there on purpose.

It is not a mistake in the sentence.

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And there will be no mistaking the grief.

I feel guilty for wanting my mum home, because it will be when her mum, and my Nannie has passed.

 

Musings from the Laundromat: Limping Manatee and a Surrogate Angel edition

Laundry lady has bronchitis – but is here anyway.   It is SO humid inside this building today.  I feel like I’m breathing in water.  That can’t be good for bronchitis right?  Or is it the opposite?   I can’t remember and I’m the Queen of Bronchitis.

Outside it’s grey and cold.  I debated putting off the trip when I woke shivering this morning.

I had slept fitfully.  Tossing and turning and looking at the clock.

I had arranged for a friend to take my mum some lunch and a smile from me.   A surrogate to bring a little sunshine to what is a dreary routine day for my vigilant and loving mum.

Every time I woke, I looked at the clock trying in my sleepy state to do the math to figure out what time it was in England.  Felt like a bittersweet Christmas Eve.

THANK YOU to that friend by the way.  I think I can use her first name without her minding.  Theresa and I went to primary school together.  And, she just happens to be married to the brother of my first love.  Crazy how things turn out eh?

So now I’m here.  I decided it wasn’t going to get any warmer from the looks of it and would be nice to get everything done and relax for the remainder of my last day off.

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In other news, Butters, the cowardly manatee, injured herself.

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She started having difficulties getting around about a week and a half ago?  I thought perhaps it was the shift in the weather.  It’s been cold, windy and rainy in our desert.  On some days colder than the East Coast!  I did the math, realized we’ve had the pleasure of her company for almost 5 years and she was certainly no pup when she found us.

But then she started to noticeably limp.

I checked her legs – she didn’t cry out.

Checked her paws and pads for those evil rams heads that inevitably find our feet at least once a week.

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Nope.  Nothing.

Then I had a small panic.

I couldn’t afford to take her to the vet – and lamented this on Facebook.

Someone mentioned ‘Care Credit’ which I applied for the very next day and qualified for.  Made an appointment and yesterday afternoon we were off to the vet.

I make that sound pretty smooth right?

Um – no.

Butters on leash, realized we were exiting ‘the gate’ AND we were headed to the car and proceeded to  freak OUT.

I got her in the back seat then she upped her freak out a notch.  Her excitement had me blocking the back seat with part of my arm whilst trying to change gears with the same arm.   (Well, the hand attached to the same arm – you know what I mean.)  So, I’m elbowing the divide between us and making cooing sounds until we arrived.

Now she realizes where she is and is immediately overcome with sensory overload.

Hyperventilating began.  As did excited shaking.  And wind passing.  And panting.  And it was 20 minutes of this fun mode until we were put into a room.

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For some reason, she also managed to shed more???  I kid you not, there was hair EVERYWHERE.  I kept petting her, it kept coming.  I mean, she worked herself up so much she was losing her hair. Lol.

At this point, I’m thinking the vet is going to assume I brought her in for an exorcism.

She was a trooper for the staff.  (Okay, I did have to get on the scale with her to get her weight, but other than that and trying to sit on the thermometer while inserted, she did very well.)

The vet examined the offending leg.  OH! I should point out that the vet only knew which leg to examine after watching videos of her limping that I had taken the night before.

Because, the minute we got there, guess who was no longer limping?   Ding! Ding! Ding!  You win.

Yup, Butters, in her adrenaline pumped state – suddenly had no signs of an issue.  Other than mental.

Her range of motion was amazing (better than mine actually) – and other than a few joint pops as the vet pulled and bent and prodded, he concluded she had just over extended or sprained the leg.  (Not surprising since she thinks she’s super dog every time she fly’s off the porch in pursuit of a rabbit or car.)

She has  anti-inflmmatories to take and is meant to chill out for 6 days.

Didn’t end up having to use the Care Credit as no X-Ray was taken.  If she isn’t improving in the coming week though, that’s the next step.

So it’s been quite a week.

Nic and I spent the rest of the evening gorging ourselves on Chinese food (courtesy of a gift certificate I received for Christmas) and watching a movie together.

Butters limped around the house as if nothing note worthy had happened that day.

Which is good, because I think she’s right pawed, and it would be difficult to write in her little diary if she had thought it worth noting.

 

Musings from the Laundromat: Early Earfuls and Policing my Pocketbook edition.

It is entirely too early to ‘morning’.  I dressed in the dark and gathered the laundry in spite of that.

Glaucoma man is Chatty Charlie again and I was just trying to form words that made sense in a sentence in response to him.  Not that he was listening to my end of it. lol.

Last night there was a last-minute switch out, and I ended up getting the guest ticket to see Willie Nelson with my dad.  I’m not a huge country fan, but if you get an opportunity to see a legend, you don’t pass it up.

So here I am, tired and wanting to be in my bed, not perched on a hard red laundromat seat.

All the regulars are here.

We acknowledge each other with a nod or a meaningful stare. It’s pretty funny.

If not for the people, I’d be completely over this whole laundromat thing.  5 years … 52 weeks per year – I’d switch over to my calculator application but I’m too tired to fuss with that.  You get the point though.  I’ve been here – a lot.

Glaucoma man just came over to chat some more.

He’s on a roll today.  And now I hear him clearing his throat and sighing behind me.

Time to put the clothes in the dryers.

OK, in the time it took to do that transfer, glaucoma man covered  the following topics:  The flu, vaccinations, the lottery and anonymity.  My ears are now awake.

They’re not sure how they feel about that, but they are in fact awake now.

My view is of a shopping center, but behind that, gorgeous mountains. Now my view is of glaucoma man.

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He’s really making the rounds today.

He never has a lot of laundry by the way.  A small bag of bits and pieces.  Hardly seems worth the effort.  But I’m pretty sure he comes less to launder and more to mingle.

I think we might as well do some sort of laundromat potluck.  Have all the regulars bring a breakfast item and make a little buffet on the folding tables. It would get in the way of my musing, but I’d have a happy stomach – plus, glaucoma man’s mouth would be too full to talk 😉

 

Speaking of, I managed to put on 10 pounds over the holidays.  I truly needed to.  But that’s it – I’m not willing to gain anymore than that.

I look healthy now – which is ironic because the crap I consumed to gain those pounds was anything but healthy.

Just had a man tell me I need to guard my pocketbook a little more carefully.  It’s hanging on the laundry cart behind me.  He said he was in law enforcement for years.  What he doesn’t know is anyone that took my ‘pocketbook’ (how quaint is that?) would be sorely disappointed.

I thanked him anyway and am now paranoid about said pocketbook.

I must guard it with my life and end my babbling.

I’ll tell glaucoma man you said “Hi.”