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Musings from the laundromat – for ‘realsies’ this time

It was driving me bonkers that my laundry day was being delayed.  I dug through my purse, broke open my gumball machine and sheepishly traded in some quarters and dimes at the laundromat counter.

“We like change …” she said.

She’s sweet like that.  Took herself away from her ironing to accommodate my change.

So now I’m back on track – albeit, a little later than normal.

First thing I noticed was the lack of carts.


Seriously, where did they go??  On a group mission to search for missing socks?  I don’t know.  There are usually 4 carts to a table.

There’s a different clientele in here too.

I don’t know these people.  And while I’m glad I don’t have to do laundry after work tomorrow, I’m feeling incredibly out of my element with this new crowd.

SUCH a  creature of habit am I.


“We like change …”  I remind myself.

Because you  know as soon as she said that, and even while I was making little quarter and dime piles, I was off on a tangent in my head about that sentence.

I’m not big on change.

I’m like a wary woodland creature.


I can be coaxed into a different environment by a treat holding hand with accompanying coos of  “c’mon, little fella, it’s ok … I won’t hurt you”.  But all the while I’m peering around and ready to scamper off back to the comfort of what I know.

I’m reminded of this right now …


Only I would see the box.  Yes I would.  I may be easily led, but not captured.

Unless it’s by my own damn rituals – like having to do laundry on a Sunday.

I’m still concerned about the carts by the way … they haven’t made it back and I worry about them.  Perhaps I need to put  down a trail of cart treats and coax them back?

What the heck do carts like?

Little droplets of WD40 for their wheels perhaps?

I’ll stick with my original thought that they’re on that sock finding mission.


Good luck on your valiant quest you brave, brave carts!





Grateful heart

I’ve been feeling insecure lately.  I do not like that feeling!

It’s negative and fearful and something I do not want to be.

It took me a long time and a lot of hard work to get to a point of serenity in my life.

I am a creature of habit – yet, open to new experiences.  Yes, I know, those contradict one another, but I adapt quickly to new ideas, routines and people.

So much so, that when a new routine suddenly changes – or I get a gut feeling that there has been a change, I’m left only to my imagination.  That is a dangerous position to be in.

So the unknown … uncertainty  … and my reaction to it – I have to look at that.

I have to look at that,  because, I know that the only thing I can change is memy attitude, my perception, my expectations.  They’re all choices.

I am still choosing to be happy.  So, I must address this facet of me that is making me feel unhappy.

Since I adopted a very real attitude of gratitude – I lost any desire for ‘more-than-enough’.

Material things aren’t shiny to me.  Matters of the heart and soul are of far more value.

imageIt stopped bothering me that I live in a tiny house – I was thankful for a home.

It stopped bothering me that I work so hard to provide for my son and I  – the bills got paid.

It also stopped bothering me that I had no one to share my daily life with – I was grateful to have a life.

I count my blessings rather than fixate on what I don’t have.

At the same time, if I’m being honest – I secretly hoped one day for the meant-for-me person to show up. 

Someone who cherished me. 

Someone who made me feel safe and invited when it came to loving him.

imageBut, I was not expecting it or looking for it. 

Fairy tales can come true – I know this.  I see other people in my life living them.

And they could happen to me too – if I stop reading so much into nothing. 

If I could have faith and believe what those who know and love me the best say: “You deserve a happy ending.”

So I will leave the heart I guarded for so long unguarded, the heart that I kept under lock and key, open and grateful.  

I will have faith and believe.  And I will not allow fear and uncertainty to hold hope hostage.