Crazy cat lady ponderings


Brace yourselves.  I actually fired up the PC and am writing a post from home and not the laundromat.  It’s going to be okay … shhh … there there – change is scary, I know.

So!  This morning, I was reading a Facebook post a friend put up about relationships.  Basically about how you have to work at it – push through those times when all the things you used to think were adorable about your partner becoming annoying as hell. 

I get it.  That first flush of romance can’t last.  Or can it?

I know people still madly in love.  People married for years and years who still light up when talking about their other half.  Makes me smile.

Also makes me want that ease of being with the right person – I don’t want to have to work hard to love someone.  Should it be that hard?  Seriously?

Then I get to work and a friend sent me a picture of a crazy cat lady cake.  Hilarious.  And I want it.  It’s a running private joke. 

I’ve said time and again that’s my destiny. 

Here’s one like it – but not ‘the one’

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Funny both of these things came up today – because I was thinking on the way to work about qualities I would need to  come in a male package in order to change my cat lady plans.

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Deal breakers for me …

  • Lying
  • Vanity
  • Laziness
  • Neediness – bordering on psychotic desperation for affirmation
  • Racism
  • Homophobia

I’m going to sound like a huge vain prick right now – but … I would need someone smarter than me, but not smug about it.  Someone who has experienced the world, or at least bothered to find out about more than his zip code.

It is what it is – I have traveled.  I can spell.  I have a large vocabulary.  If I don’t know something, I admit it and then strive to learn what I don’t know.

I like to read.  I love the arts.  Music, painting, writing, theater. 

If I were ever to entertain the thought of sharing my LIFE with someone, it would have to be someone who challenged me. 

Someone who would step up, (not in a creepy domineering way) and decide that I am what they want and not give up until I was convinced it’s what I want too. 

Effort.  Patience.  

I’m not an easily peeled onion.  I have baggage. 

And knowing this about myself, I made the smart decision to NOT put someone through that. 

I am happy.  I am self-supporting.  I like myself and enjoy my company.

Besides, if I do get lonely, I can order this. 😉

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About debaucherysoup

I've traveled 4 continents, affording me experiences and adventures to last a lifetime. Most important was the exposure to other cultures, beliefs and lifestyles. I'm also mom to one of the most amazing human beings I know.

Posted on April 10, 2013, in Uncategorized and tagged , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 5 Comments.

  1. Ricardo Recovery

    I WILL YOUR ASS IN SCRABBLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🙂

  2. Ricardo Recovery

    KICK !!!!! LOL

  3. Ricardo Recovery

    I love art….I love children…..I love sitting on the porch with a beautiful friend , smoking and talkin under the stars…..I love chicken fried steak…. I love family guy and such shows…… I LOVE TO LEARN!!!! I LOVE TO TRAVEL 😉 I am a good listener…..I am kind/funny and kinda funny :P…….I love nature…. I love HEAVY METAL MUSIC!!!! I am a good bug catcher!!! I love me……….I love my puppy…. I,m too sexy for my shirt…. 🙂 …I know alot of stuff…..and stuff

  4. Good for you! Put it out there, you know what you need or do not need, want or don’t want. I hope all the good things in life find their way to your door, you deserve the best. 🙂

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