What I’ve learned so far living with my guy

I was excited!

I was sure!

I was making room for another – and in all the insanity of removing 1/2 my life from my small home, it didn’t dawn on me right away that I was also …


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As comfortable as I was with my man – everything was about to change.

My routine would now include another.

And let’s face it, some of those routines have no room for another.

How was I going to use the bathroom??  How was I going to get through an entire night without ‘noises’ and I’m not talking about snoring.

How was I going to look as presentable as I did on Skype first thing in the morning?


There was maybe a week of ‘awkward’ as we both found our footing.  He, learning to be ‘at home’ in a strange environment.  Me, learning to be ‘at home’ with someone sharing it with me.

But then … everything just clicked into place.

sharing bathroom

If you’re living with the right person, things do fall into place.

Also, everything I was SO sure I NEEDED in a relationship (personal space, time apart, separate interests etc.) proved not to be so.

My DVR is piling up with shows I religiously watched B.J. <– ‘Before Jim’ (what did you THINK I meant?)

My living room rarely sees me anymore, (it startles now when I enter it) – the couch has forgotten what it’s like to have me nap on it.

Netflix is feeling pretty superior lately though.  It’s getting a LOT of attention in our bedroom, and sometimes, it get’s ignored/paused.


But it doesn’t mind.

Then there’s the animals.

This was a recent post of Jim’s on Facebook:

bed reservationsThe animals I was SO worried about not getting along clearly ARE getting along.

cats dogs

We’ve found our rhythm … our groove.

It helps that we have so much in common.  It helps that we have history.  It helps that we’re friends.  It helps that we actually love each other. It helps that we both have a similar sense of humor and it definitely helps that we laugh … A LOT.

Onto the things I’ve learned … and I’ll get a little serious here:

  • Men like to be spooned too!  You can’t always be the little spoon.  He’s chosen you to spend his life with – men need to feel adored, appreciated, cherished and loved as much as you do!

spoon image

  • You think your partner is beautiful sleeping, waking up, with food on their t-shirt etc.  right?  They feel the same way.  And if they don’t – maybe you should reconsider your partner.  Confidence and a smile go a lot further than lipstick any day!
  • Too tired?  Not feeling 100%?  You are your partners one and only – and if they’re ‘desiring’ you, thank your lucky stars and be available.  Of course, if you’re really exhausted or unwell, they’re going to understand and if they don’t – again – maybe you should reconsider your partner.
  • Something bothering you?  BRING IT UP!  But, only after you make sure it’s an actual ‘bother’ and worth ‘bothering’ about.  I learned this after bringing something up that probably I shouldn’t have.  But, hey – live and learn.
  • Say “Please” and “Thank You”  Don’t take the love of your life for granted!
  • Do things your partner will want to thank you for!
  • Maintain SOME mystery … especially girls.  OK, we know we’re all human – and have the same physical needs – and I’m guilty of NOT doing this in past relationships.  No we’re not perfect windless Princesses – but waltzing into the bathroom while your man is shaving and readying yourself to evacuate your bowels is NOT SEXY.  No it’s not.  And I’m not going to even GOOGLE what probably is a niche that does find it so. *Shudder*

I know I’m going to make mistakes – I know there will be days he’s less enchanted with me.  I know I may forget to say ‘Thank You’ from time to time – but I’m really going to try to remember my own advice, because it’s important to me.  HE Is important to me.  WE are important to me!

getting to know someone

About debaucherysoup

I've traveled 4 continents, affording me experiences and adventures to last a lifetime. Most important was the exposure to other cultures, beliefs and lifestyles. I'm also mom to one of the most amazing human beings I know.

Posted on May 15, 2015, in Love, Pets and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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