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My 2 cents on Caitlyn & Courage

My eyes can’t take anymore Caitlyn Jenner headlines or memes …

And now the outrage over the ESPY award for courage.

Do I think ESPN picked the right person for the award?  Not so much.  But I also don’t think an award trumps admiration and if you have someone you think more worthy – celebrate them!  Pay them respect and do something in their honor.


There are many ways to be courageous.  And many who do it day in and day out, without accolades.  And those who TRULY serve, don’t WANT accolades.  They do what they do, because it’s who they inherently are.  *Tangent* It’s a pet peeve of mine when someone toots their own horn about how they were of service.  Sorta sucks the humility and charity out of it in my opinion if you have to tell everyone what you did. *Tangent over*

Back to courage.

Courage: mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty.

In my personal opinion, I DO think it courageous to make such a transition in such limelight. I DO think it courageous to follow your heart and soul in spite of such scrutiny.

I hope she can be an inspiration to someone struggling with their own identity. Give them strength to embrace who they are and if they so choose, take the steps to have their outside match their inside.

I want to add, I hope his transition changes some minds and improves tolerance and understanding … then I remembered something she (he at the time) said.

It was the interview with Diane Sawyer.

Jenner was speaking of Russian Nikolay Avilov, whose record he broke during the 1976 Olympic Decathlon. He smiled in a very smarmy way and then commented on Avilov’s appearance today, “He was overweight and out of shape. I won that battle, too.”

My jaw dropped.

If you’re asking for acceptance and tolerance – better empty your pockets of any rocks first.

That was just cruel.

So basically, ‘Accept me while I put someone else down’.

But, male or female – she is still only human.

Let’s hope before being an inspiration – she works on her own tolerance.

But what does that make me?

I had an ‘interaction’ with a customer last week that left a foul taste in my mouth.  She had come in to drop off paperwork and in her brief time in the office, put down three races.  My jaw was literally on the ground. 

I ABHOR racism, homophobia, sexism – insert any other prejudice-ism here ____. You get the point.

She was a total stranger.  We were total strangers to her.  So that fact that she was comfortable using her vile descriptive ‘names’ she had for ‘them’ in front of us in a business environment was quite shocking and I knew, then and there, I did not like this woman.

She came back today – wearing perfume that was SO very cloying and … well, you know that particular ‘scent’ a perfume gives off when it’s expired?  Yeah, that was intermingled as well.

I got to thinking though – me sitting there, judging her and her nauseating perfume – was that any better than her judging others?

If she was a sweet, kind, non-racist person – would her perfume be any less cloying?  (Honestly probably not, it was pretty bad). OK, would I have tolerated her perfume if I hadn’t already decided I didn’t like her?

I really try NOT to hate.  I try not to judge.  I trust until I have a reason not to.  I love until I have a reason not to.

If her opinion came from ignorance, then that’s forgivable, and is it really my business?  She doesn’t need me to forgive her.  She doesn’t need me to like her.

In my opinion.

What she does need to do is watch what she says around me though, because I think that NOT saying something in response to words of hate is the same as condoning it.  I will, very professionally of course, say something.